Idea #53 Tennis ball & Team Building

Do it When you have team building. People are standing in a group or sitting around the table. Give them an easy task: Tennis ball has to pass everyone’s hands as quicker as possible. Team members will have to prepare strategy. Usually they will start with quick throwing ball. Measure their time and tell them that it can be quicker. They will start doing that quicker for sure. After several tries tell them that record is 2 second. After the first shock they will manage how to do it. They just have to make “tube” with everyone’s hands and pass the ball through that “tube”. Everyone will be happy with new idea.  ”If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people together to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.” – Antoine de Saint

Now, coaching questions for you:
1. Imagine that your team has become perfect?
2. Why is that so important to you?
3. How would you know that
your team is perfect?
4. What other valuess would you have then?
5. What else is even more important for your team?
6. Who else would beneffit then
7. What could you do to make your team perfect?
8. What would be the time frame for that?
9. How would you engage all other member of the team?
10. What would be the action plan for that?
11. How are you going to commit yourself to stick to your plan?
Thank you for your ideas

Idea #45 Stand for coaching air magic sticks

Do it When you want to raise self esteem in people. On every training bring stand like one on picture below. Tell participants that it is stand for air magic sticks for coaching. Ask each one of them to take one air magic stick. They will use it on their everyday work or in life. But now they will have air magic sticks that will help them.
Whenever they have some question air magic stick will give them answer. 

Coaching questions for you are as follows:
1. What do you regard as the biggest challenge at the moment?
2. How do you know that you have been handling that challenge successfully?
3. How would you feel if you managed to cope with that challenge?
4. Which means would you use to reach the set goal?
5. What would be your first step to attain that goal?
6. Make a list of all further steps.
7. What would be the most useful system for dealing with any future challenges?
8. What else would you find beneficial to achieving your goals?
Thank you for your ideas.


Idea #44 Full MeNtal Jacket

Do it When you train your people how to deal with difficult people. In our business dealing with difficult people is mandatory. “Difficult People are your key to self- empowerment, you need to learn how to cope with them, do not let them dominate and affect you.” – Janice Davies. One of techniques is to teach them to wear virtual protection from difficult people, as well as to establish a close rapport with them by showing empathy and incessantly reminding them that they are wearing invisible Full MeNtal Jacket. As a result, every bad word, anger, every feeling of negative energy will be stopped. If your employees manage to recognize and accept that tool, they will deal with difficult people more easily.

Coaching questions for you are as follows:
1. Which symptoms do you notice in your body when you deal with difficult people?
2. In which part of your body do you notice that?
3. What is the shape of that symptom?
4. Is it sharp or smooth?
5. In which color is it?
6. Is it stable or spinning? If spinning, is it clockwise or counter-clockwise?
7. Is it getting hot or cold?
8. Now when you have a full picture of that symptom, imagine that your mind is creating protection. That protection has a shape, color, speed and direction opposite to your symptom but much bigger. 
In addition, that protection is moving from your mind to the part of your body where you are feeling the symptom.
9. That protection is overwhelming your symptom and destroying it.
10. How are you feeling now?
Thank you and good luck.

Idea #41 Where to put effort

Do it when you want to point to the participants the importance of putting effort in the right point. This is story about giant ship that has suffered engine malfunction and was tightened on the dock for engine repair. Several groups of engineers failed trying to repair the engine. Finally captain called old mechanist with lifetime experience on ships like this. For 15 minutes he was examining the full system. At the end he focused on the one pipe and started hitting it with hammer. After that engine started working properly. Captain was amused but suddenly he was stunned because mechanist asked him for 5.000 $ for his work. Then captain asked for specification of his 15 minutes service. Machinist wrote on the bill: Working on the engine 2$, diagnosing what to do 4.998 $, in total 5.000 $. Obviously, in life everything is knowing where to put the effort.

Coaching questions for you:
1. Imagine that you are sitting with someone like old machinist from the previous story, but he has knowledge relevant to your career. How useful it will be for you?
2. Where will be the most useful place to talk with him?
3. How much you trust him on scale from 1 to 10?
4. What would you ask him?
5. What from you point will be his answer?
6. What new ideas will gain from your talk?
7. In form of action plan, write down what you are planning to do. What will be the time frame for it?
Thank you for sharing your ideas with us!

Idea #40 Leadership by the finger

Do it during training when you want to point that managing people is 2 way street. Divide participants in pairs. They have to stand facing each other.
Person A has to point his/her finger just next to the nous of person B. Just give instruction that person A has to move his/her finger and person B has to maintain the same distance between his nous and finger of person A. Very soon everyone will show their real personality. Some people will just move finger left to right without moving arm. But, some of them will give them a full speed and creativity making spirals with finger. After 2 minutes ask them to switch the roles. The very next moment you will hear laugh, because everyone knows what will happen. Those who were gentle will receive the same treatment. But the other ones will experience rollercoaster journey. This is the best way to show participants, especially managers that we are all dealing with people like us.

Now, coaching questions for you:
1. Imagine yourself giving feedback to one of your employee. On the same time you have noticed that in the room is (invisible for your employee) person who is your managing role model. That person is standing in one corner of your office observing what is happening. Tell me more about that person. What are his/here values?
2. Why is she/he your role model?
3. Imagine that you have left you conscious mind and come into head of your role model. Now you are looking with eyes of your role model at you delivering feedback to your employee. Feel what he/she feels. Listen to his/her
thoughts. What positive facts will your role model say about you?
4. What positive will your role model say about your behaving during feedback?
5. What that person will suggest to you for the purpose of being better?
6. Now go back to your body. Think about everything what you heard from him/her?
7. How beneficial will be implementing it?
8. In which situations you will implement that?
9. How are you going to commit yourself that you are going to do like that?
Thank you for your thoughts. How beneficial was this for you?

Idea #39 Cherishing problems

Do it when you want to find real problems and answers to them. Old people say:  “Where is the illness there’s a cure”. In business world it means that people who are in the front line dealing with problems are first one who will notice them and find the answer. Just they have to be motivated to do that. Otherwise they will just complain about their destiny. So first you have to motivate them to escalate the problem to you. Make competition that every week all employees will send by email the most difficult situations.
Choose the hardest and give price to that person. Now for next 7 days all people will have to think about solving that situation. Choose the best answer and give price to that person. At the same time competition will be for the next difficult situation. So, from now on, every week you will have two competitions. First, for the best problem and second for the best answer for situation from the previous week. Just imagine how strong your team will be in a year. Special note: It is not allowed to give money for the price!

Now, coaching questions for you:
1. What was the worst business situation that you have experienced in last 3 years?
2. Just imagine that you are looking at yourself dealing with that situation. What do you observe?
3. How satisfied you are with that you on a scale from 1 to 10?
4. What would you suggest to that other you?
5. How to talk? How to behave? What do you also notice?
6. What will be the best scenario you can suggest to that other you?
7. Tell that scenario to that other you and ask him/her to rehearsal it!
8. Imagine that other you have done it perfectly. With that feeling welcome back to the present and write down situations where you can use skills that you have practiced.
Thank you and good luck!

Idea #38 Hamlet’s Dilemma

Do it when you want to train decision making. So many times we have to choose between to do or not to do something. If only we could predict the future. For instance, we are planning to invest in our business but we don’t know is situation on the market going to be better or worse for our business. But after the battle it is easy to be the general. Before the battle we can (only) use matrix 2 x 2. Now we have 4 quadrants. In first we do the action (invest the money) and situation on the market is going to be better for our business. On second quadrant we are not investing money and situation on the market is better. Obviously we miss the chance to invest in good business. In third quadrant we do the action, and situation in the business is worse. So we are very sad for losing money. In fourth quadrant we don’t do the action and situation is worse in your business. Ironically we are happy because we haven’t invested in bad business. If you cautiously discuss situations in every quadrant you will notice that in 2 situations almost always you will have bad situation and good situation in other 2.
Now it will be much easier to make decisions what to do.
Now, coaching questions for you:
1. Imagine that you can predict situation on the market in next 3 years. How it will look like?
2. Explain it in 3 sentences.
3. How that situation will affect your market?
4. How important for you on 1 to 10 is that you know that situation?
5. Knowing that information what will be the first thing that you will do?
6. What will be your following steps?
7. Make time frame for all your steps?
8. What will be your strategy if something goes other way?
9. How satisfied are you with this plan?
Thank you and good luck!

Idea #37 Emotion Vs. Logic

Do it when you want to train decision making. Often we say that while making decisions is good to exclude emotions, using only our logic. At the same time, there are so many emotional decision making techniques. Even with what we believe are rational decisions, the very point of choice is always based on emotion. It is much easier to understand if we say that emotions are signals from the subconscious mind. Now, we can start game. Divide participants in 2 groups. First group has to prepare presentation of one of your products using only logic. Presentation has to include poster and sales speech. Other group has to do the same thing using only logic.
Give them 15 minutes for preparation. Then they will do the presentations.
Objections and questions from the other group are the most important part.
Answering them each group can use bith, emotion and logic. 

Coaching questions for you:
1. Imagine that your career is guided just by your intuition and that you can fail. How confident will you be on a scale from 1 to 10?
2. Beside confidence, what other your values will benefit?
3. How your life looks then? Explain it in 3 sentences?
4. What is stopping you from reaching that goal?
5. What can you do to raise your present level of confidence?
6. What further steps can you make?
7. How can you make system for constantly boosting your confidence?
8. How committed you are to implement that system?
9. When are you going to start with your system?
Thank you, I can feel your confidence right now!

Idea #34 Action plan at The End

Do it when you have finished your training. It is always good to see how participants have accepted training and what are they going to implement. On one page of handout give them matrix 2 x 2. In 4 quadrants give them headlines:  I will do More, I will do Less, I will Stop and I will Start. On every quadrant make at least 3 lines so they can fulfill them. At the end of that page make a space so participants can sign. This is very good commitment that they will really follow their action plan.
And remember that We Can Not Change our Past but We Can Change the Future.
Now, coaching questions for you:
1. Find area in your life where you want to make improvement. Which area is that?
2. How important on a scale from 1 to 10 is it to you?
3. Whom will you be when you make that improvement?
4. To make that improvement you will have to start doing something differently. Name 3 things!
5. You will have to stop doing something. Name 3 things!
6. You will have to do something more than you are doing now? Name 3 things!
7. You will have to do something less than now! Name 3 things!
8. Now you have 12 things that you will do. What will be the first thing?
9. Make prioritization for other eleven.
10. How satisfied are you with this plan?
Thank you and good luck!

Idea #31 Maximum training results

Do it when you are asked: “How can you guarantee that participants will accept skills from your training?” I have applied at some French company for delivering soft skills to their managers. In application form one of the questions was: “How can you guarantee that participants will accept skills from your training?” If you have any experience in training than I am sure that you have seen curve explaining that training without mentoring and coaching sessions will make maximum 10 % improvement. So I come to the following idea. I will guaranty that participants will gain any percentage that we would agree was acceptable. And after a month we will do evaluation. If participants fail, company will have to pay 3 times value of training. In that way I am 100 % sure that they will find way for coaching, mentoring, refreshing and everything that is necessary for successful learning. What are your thoughts?

Now, coaching questions for you:
1. Imagine that you have to deliver training to a very important group of managers. How would you prepare?
2. How important is that training to you?
3. Who will also benefit from it?
4. Who are you in eyes of people that you respect after that training?
5. What kind of positive visualization will be beneficial to you?
6. Visualizing your successful training what do you see, hear and feel?
7. Explain it in 5 sentences.
8. What was the most crucial part of presentations for your success?
9. What would be some other good idea for that training?
Write down everything and share with us your success. Thank you!